Party...!Party...!

November 6, 2010, friday night, was the "binyagan night". I was able to meet...jaja! the demands of my children...(I mean mga anak ko sa BB Family)...lol! The night which is full of challenges though it was raining, our plan really succeeded to be in Payag and the rain didn't stop us from doing that! The rain was really unexpected, but when we were already in Payag, the rain was so strong that you can already see the wooden bridges in the canal floating. But through those raindrops, we cherish the moment of drinking...(you know nah!). Ha ha ha! I didn't expect my children (konoh) that they were more than me. I mean I don't even drink that way. Well anyways it was all for fun. But we were not contented yet, we run through the rain to look for a tricycle to gave us a lift in going to Bakunawa. Our journey was not that easy actually.., it seems like we are riding on a pumpboat because of the fload and the rains were really heavy. Jabee in fact didn't sat on the tricycle but rather stand inside it because of the water spashes. But then we still wanted to went on another bar and here comes Sandpipers Bar and Zanzi Bar. We don't really have the plan to go home at night and we actually waited the sun to rise. During that time we were kinda hungry or what and we stayed in MCDo to ate some fries, coffee, and hamburgers and it seems like we stayed in that place for 3 hours. After tha we went to Boulevard and stayed there. Funny to say we were the only people sitting in there. But hours have passed and here comes a few who were jogging in the place. I was laughing actually thinking that we looked like "palaboy" in Dumaguete. Jabee and Ariane actually laid down in the elevated cemented area.

Thanks a lot to Ariane, Danica, Jeric, Jabee, and Eliver, for the moments we shared in my "binyag"(hahaha!). Actually, they said that that night was actually the end of warla2x, but to me this is just the beginning of a new journey. Hmmmp!

Again and again...

(Sighs) this have been a challenging day for me. I'm so exhausted with the start of the classes, it's just that I had a toothache with these days... Hmmm! for how long am I going to suffer. Duh! I need to get rid of this. (SooooooooooN)

Tired...

...this is actually what i felt during our enrollment. The process is so long and it would really require an individual with a strong stamina and be patient all the time. I'm half way there..., accounting, control # and encoding and wallah! I'm done..., more thanks to our dean who gave me some recommendation letter so that I will be accomodated. Thank's to Ma'am Ochotorena.

Emotion and Desire

With emotion and desire, make things happen!

What’s the importance of emotion and desire? If you have read Think and Grow Rich by Napolean Hill, you would know that according to him, one of the prerequisite’s for success is to have a burning desire. You won’t go far without it. Many successful people seem to agree with that.

So what is desire? Desire is to want something/someone/etc deeply. It’s a wish or a want, except that it is of a much stronger yearning. There are varying levels of desire, from normal desire to a very high desire, which many like to call a burning desire.

Michael Jordan spent most of his waking hours practicing his basketball skills. And when he isn’t practicing, he is thinking about ways to improve his skills. Now that is a burning desire for the game of basketball.

Everyone has a burning desire for something. Some are clear about it, others aren’t so sure. What is your passion? If you had all the money and time in the world, what would you be doing? If you can answer that quickly without any doubt, then you know it is one of your burning desires. You are excited about it everyday and think about it constantly.

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Why emotion and desire are important?

Emotion and desire gives power and energy to your wanting. Understand that you won’t achieve something unless you really want it. Only when you truly yearn for something. God, the universe, the supreme power whatever you wanna call it, will only give you what you want when you demonstrate that you have a burning desire for it. Having a burning desire is not all that you will need, but without it success is harder to come by.

The key here is to have congruency. Don’t say something if you don’t mean it. Don’t ask for something if you don’t really want it. The universe will know the truth and you would know it as well.

In medical cases, have you ever heard phrases like “It was his desire to live that pulled him through” or something like that? We hear cases like that all the time. The patient only had a small chance of surviving, something went wrong during the operation, he stopped breathing for too long, his heart stopped for too long etc all these things that should have resulted in death but it didn’t happen. It is the patient’s desire for life that made it possible.

Having emotion and desire is the only thing that can make possible the seemingly impossible. It has a power beyond imagination.

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Here are some ways to develop a burning desire.

1. Desire for something that you’re passionate about – When it is something that you’re absolutely passionate about, you will automatically have a burning desire for it. It’s hard to have a burning desire for things that you’re not interested in. Musicians love music, sportsmen love their sport. The best advice is to go for things you are passionate about. Work with yourself, don’t go against and force yourself.

2. Use NLP techniques – Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) techniques – in particular sub-modalities and anchoring can help you develop a burning desire for whatever you want. With NLP methods you intentionally induce emotion and desire, and proceed to associate it with your goal. You can find out more in my NLP techniques page. (find the link in the navigation bar)

3. Brainstorm benefits – The more benefits getting something can bring, the more excited and desire you will have for it. Many times we know what we want and how it can benefit us, however we are not clear on the details. Brainstorm how achieving that can help you in the clearest terms possible. In specific terms, how does it help you physically, intellectually, financially, in relationships etc? What can you do with it? What can you prevent with it? What will that lead to?

Don’t just be like - I want to exercise cause it’s good for me. Come up with a long detailed list. Focus more on things that can affect your daily life immediately. For example, by exercising ;

• I feel good about myself

• More vitality throughout the day

• Perform better personally and professionally

• Don’t have to rely on coffee in the morning

• Make use of my gym membership

• Look attractive

• Make my partner happy

• Reduce stress

• Prevent diseases, cancer etc

• Can finally go on that beach trip without feeling embarrassed!!

Have both the things that you can get, and things you can prevent.

4. Visualize achieving it – After you have come up with a detailed list of benefits, now visualize achieving that desire and experiencing those benefits. Make it as vivid and detailed as possible. That will sure to raise your emotion and desire for it.

5. Use your physiology – Pump your fist, jump up and down, shout, smile, laugh… whatever works for you. These are the normal actions when we’re passionate about something. Show these actions when thinking or doing something and you’ll start to associate and feel more emotion and desire towards it. Try it out. Yup, it’s simple but it works.

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Final thoughts….

When you have a burning desire for something, you have a purpose. A reason for doing whatever it is you do. You won’t feel that it is a chore, you won’t feel lazy. You’ll be waking up everyday looking forward to it.

A burning desire can be developed. Create that emotion and desire by using the steps above. Use it and make the impossible happen!!

What are Emotions?

Discover what are emotions!

Everyone knows of emotions, but what are emotions? The common description is that it is the feelings you have at a certain moment in time. Given how much effect and influence emotions have on human beings, surely we know that emotions are more than just fleeting feelings.

Emotions can be so strong and intense that it drives people to do crazy things, be it good or bad. Things like arguments, fights, hurting others, even killing and suicide. People are driven by emotions to do all these things. So I would assume that most people feel that they should understand more about what are emotions.

What are emotions?

There are so many definitions of emotions out there. To put it simply, emotions are what make us alive. It gives us our human nature. It is not just fleeting feelings, but rather state changes which affect our whole being. Emotions are pretty complex and it links thoughts, feelings and actions together. Emotions lead to changes in our mental and physiological states such as heart beat, breathing etc. It affects your biological states and electro-chemical reactions.

Emotions can be very powerful. An example is panic attacks, which are very intense negative emotions that can result in uncontrollable body reactions such as sweating, breathlessness and uncontrollable shaking.

What are emotions for?

The changes in consciousness and physiology brought about by emotions are to act as a survival mechanism. When you sense danger, there is an increase in your heartbeat rate, breathing, blood flow and adrenaline rush to make you more alert and better prepared to face the danger. Thus emotions are actually very useful.

When things are going great, when you’re enjoying life, your emotion will let you know that things are fine and you’re on the right track. You will feel happy, relaxed, calm, excited etc when that happens.

When we feel negative emotions, it is a signal that things are not going well. That emotion is telling you that you need to make some changes to your current situation. This is where most people miss the message. Instead of heeding the message and having a hard look at what they could possibly do better, a lot of people try to get rid of that emotion by venting it out or through various other means. By doing that, rather than using the emotion as a signal, they are allowing the emotion to be a negative force that controls them.

How does emotions originate?

Perhaps not surprisingly, it is comes from both internally and externally. Emotions arises in response to external happenings but the manner of the response is driven internally. Take lightning for example. When there is a thunderstorm happening, one person may be afraid of the lightning, while another may feel in awe of it’s power and energy. Both emotions originated in response to the lightning, but the type of emotions they felt came from within.

So the bottom line is, no matter what’s going on externally, you are still the source of the emotion you feel.

Final thoughts…

You are the source of your emotions. Your emotions serve you and are a call to action. Learn from it and use it to help you get results. Hope this article helped you have a better understanding of what are emotions.

Self Improvement Mentor is not just about sharing tips for increasing productivity or becoming smarter. Rather the information here approaches self improvement through total alignment and integration of the whole being to support the outcome. True lasting success can only exist when the soul, mind, body and emotions are aligned.

Time check, 10:40 am I'm not yet home from last nights overnight in the office. My back is aching, and my eyes were so heavy. Oh my.., this is an overnight syndrome.

WAITING IN VAIN

“One of the hardest things in life is watching the person you love, love someone else."

It hurts a lot seeing the person you love, is with another persons hand. But what hurts the most is to love someone and not to be loved in return and never find the courage to let the person know how you feel towards him. Is this really the real essence of love. Is it really when you shed a tear and still want him, it's when he ignores you and you still love him, it's when he loves another girl but you still smile and say I'm happy for you, when all you really do is cry. But still I am willing to wait, no matter how long would it take me to wait!

From the moment we were born, we've been a slave to our emotions. Babies cry, kids throw tantrums, teenagers rebel... However, there are times when we need to rein these feelings in and learn how to control emotions.

After all, you can't exactly break down in tears whenever your boss disagrees with your idea. And you can't exactly hit other people either because they irritate you.

So how do you control emotions? Read on to find out.

Step 1: Be Prepared.

Sometimes, we feel a burst of emotion when we're caught unaware. When someone says something that we don't expect, we might cry, laugh or get really angry. This might be okay when you're among friends, but it's a different story altogether when you're in the middle of a board meeting.

One way on how to control emotions is to prepare yourself for what's ahead. For example, if you already know that you're meeting with an insufferable client, pace yourself. Tell yourself not to get hot-headed. Be the epitome of cool. Preparing yourself helps you control your emotions and not the other way around.

Step 2: Be Objective.

By separating yourself from the situation, you're able to look at things in a more logical perspective.

Let's say you're a journalist covering an earthquake tragedy where thousands of people died. If you want to learn how to control emotions long enough so you can do your job properly, detach yourself from the number of grieving people. Focus on the numbers and the science.

Learning how to control emotions might sound harsh and cold in a tragedy such as this; but sometimes, it's the only way you can do your job and report the incident properly.

Step 3: Be Patient.

Counting 1-10 won't help you if you're a pretty impatient person. Therefore, it's important that you work on that area of yourself. Being patient helps delay bursts of emotion that may not be appropriate for the situation. It gives your feelings time to subside and retreat.

One way to cultivate patience is meditation. This activity also helps you calm yourself down and quell strong waves of emotion.

Being able to feel emotions and express them is part of being human. There's nothing wrong with that. However, there are certain instances wherein we must learn how to control emotions. Besides, sudden bursts of emotions also lead us to doing things we might regret later on. In order to avoid any awkward situations, remember to be prepared, be objective and be patient.

It's been a long time since I posted something on my blog. I was left behind by my friends who are fun of blogging. My blog is supposed to be of emotions...full of emotions, but I guess I had a difficulty in showing it off. It's not that really easy, coz the consequences might be that hard to handle (//.-).